Romeo, if dead, should be cut up into little stars to make the heavens fine.
Life, with this pair, has no other aim, asks no more, than Juliet,--than Romeo.
Night, day, studies, talents, kingdoms, religion, are all contained in this form
full of soul, in this soul which is all form. The lovers delight in endearments,
in avowals of love, in comparisons of their regards. When alone, they solace
themselves with the remembered image of the other. Does that other see the same
star, the same melting cloud, read the same book, feel the same emotion, that
now delight me? They try and weigh their affection, and adding up costly
advantages, friends, opportunities, properties, exult in discovering that
willingly, joyfully, they would give all as a ransom for the beautiful, the
beloved head, not one hair of which shall be harmed. But the lot of humanity is
on these children. Danger, sorrow, and pain arrive to them, as to all. Love
prays. It makes covenants with Eternal Power in behalf of this dear mate. The
union which is thus effected and which adds a new value to every atom in
nature--for it transmutes every thread throughout the whole web of relation into
a golden ray, and bathes the soul in a new and sweeter element--is yet a
temporary state. Not always can flowers, pearls, poetry, protestations, nor even
home in another heart, content the awful soul that dwells in clay. It arouses
itself at last from these endearments, as toys, and puts on the harness and
aspires to vast and universal aims. The soul which is in the soul of each,
craving a perfect beatitude, detects incongruities, defects and disproportion in
the behavior of the other. Hence arise surprise, expostulation and pain. Yet
that which drew them to each other was signs of loveliness, signs of virtue; and
these virtues are there, however eclipsed. They appear and reappear and continue
to attract; but the regard changes, quits the sign and attaches to the
substance. This repairs the wounded affection. Meantime, as life wears on, it
proves a game of permutation and combination of all possible positions of the
parties, to employ all the resources of each and acquaint each with the strength
and weakness of the other. For it is the nature and end of this relation, that
they should represent the human race to each other. All that is in the world,
which is or ought to be known, is cunningly wrought into the texture of man, of
woman:--
"The person love does to us fit,
Like manna, has the taste of all in it."
The world rolls; the circumstances vary every hour. The angels that inhabit this
temple of the body appear at the windows, and the gnomes and vices also. By all
the virtues they are united. If there be virtue, all the vices are known as
such; they confess and flee. Their once flaming regard is sobered by time in
either breast, and losing in violence what it gains in extent, it becomes a
thorough good understanding. They resign each other without complaint to the
good offices which man and woman are severally appointed to discharge in time,
and exchange the passion which once could not lose sight of its object, for a
cheerful, disengaged furtherance, whether present or absent, of each other's
designs. At last they discover that all which at first drew them
together,--those once sacred features, that magical play of charms,--was
deciduous, had a prospective end, like the scaffolding by which the house was
built; and the purification of the intellect and the heart from year to year is
the real marriage, foreseen and prepared from the first, and wholly above their
consciousness. Looking at these aims with which two persons, a man and a woman,
so variously and correlatively gifted, are shut up in one house to spend in the
nuptial society forty or fifty years, I do not wonder at the emphasis with which
the heart prophesies this crisis from early infancy, at the profuse beauty with
which the instincts deck the nuptial bower, and nature and intellect and art
emulate each other in the gifts and the melody they bring to the epithalamium.
Thus are we put in training for a love which knows not sex, nor person, nor
partiality, but which seeks virtue and wisdom everywhere, to the end of
increasing virtue and wisdom. We are by nature observers, and thereby learners.
That is our permanent state. But we are often made to feel that our affections
are but tents of a night. Though slowly and with pain, the objects of the
affections change, as the objects of thought do. There are moments when the
affections rule and absorb the man and make his happiness dependent on a person
or persons. But in health the mind is presently seen again,--its overarching
vault, bright with galaxies of immutable lights, and the warm loves and fears
that swept over us as clouds must lose their finite character and blend with
God, to attain their own perfection. But we need not fear that we can lose any
thing by the progress of the soul. The soul may be trusted to the end. That
which is so beautiful and attractive as these relations, must be succeeded and
supplanted only by what is more beautiful, and so on for ever.
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